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  • When You Feel Trapped in a Life That Looks Good on Paper

    When You Feel Trapped in a Life That Looks Good on Paper

    “When something isn’t right for you, it has a way of letting you know. Not in one big announcement, but in a thousand small nudges.” ~Martha Beck I was sitting at the kitchen table with my coffee one morning when a thought slipped in that I hadn’t let myself think before: This can’t be the…

  • What Happened When We Chose Not to React in Anger

    What Happened When We Chose Not to React in Anger

    “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.” ~Viktor E. Frankl A few months ago, I was on a crowded highway with my wife and son. Traffic was barely moving. Vehicles were inching forward, one small gap at a time, with the usual impatience hanging…

  • How to Heal on a Deeper Level After Moving On

    How to Heal on a Deeper Level After Moving On

    “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” ~C.G. Jung For twelve years, I believed I was the architect of a perfect life. I had the “Summa Cum Laude” degree, a respected career in human services, a devoted husband, and two healthy daughters. I had checked…

  • Finding Peace with Money After Years of Feeling “Responsibly Broke”

    Finding Peace with Money After Years of Feeling “Responsibly Broke”

    “A big part of financial freedom is having your heart and mind free from worry about the what-ifs of life.” ~Suze Orman During my upbringing, my parents often fought about money since we didn’t have much of it. My mom was more of an occasional spender, while my father would go as far as making…

  • The Sounds That Helped Calm my Mind

    The Sounds That Helped Calm my Mind

    I recently had the opportunity to take an online Sound as Medicine workshop with Phyllicia Victoria through the Omega Institute, and what a beautiful experience it was. As you may know from my previous emails, I’ve been moving through the hardest time in my adult life for the past eighteen months. I’ve been back and…

  • The Beautiful Gift We Give Without Even Knowing

    The Beautiful Gift We Give Without Even Knowing

    “The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh Five years ago, my son missed a basketball tryout. We had been out of town, and by the time we got back, the rosters were already set. I made a few calls anyway, hoping someone might give a kid a late…

  • A Little-Known Truth About People-Pleasing and How to Stop (for Good)

    A Little-Known Truth About People-Pleasing and How to Stop (for Good)

    “Being a people-pleaser may be more than a personality trait; it could be a response to serious trauma.” ~Alex Bachert Growing up in a home, school, and church that placed a lot of value on good behavior, self-discipline, and corporal punishment, I was a model child. There could have been an American Girl doll designed…

  • Lessons from Slowing Down: What My Body Needed to Feel Better

    Lessons from Slowing Down: What My Body Needed to Feel Better

    “Take care of your body. It’s the only place you have to live.” ~Jim Rohn I used to think tiredness was a personality trait. I was the person who could work fourteen hours, sleep five, and do it again. I wore my exhaustion like armor. It proved I was serious. It proved I was dedicated. It…

  • How to Feel Safe When Panic Feels Dangerous

    How to Feel Safe When Panic Feels Dangerous

    “Anxiety isn’t you. It’s something moving through you. It can leave out of the same door it came in.” ~James Clear Years ago, I had a panic attack while driving across a bridge, and I thought I might die that day. Suddenly my heart started pounding. My breath became shallow and tight. My chest felt…

  • How I Lost Myself in a Controlling Friendship and What I Know Now

    How I Lost Myself in a Controlling Friendship and What I Know Now

    “The most common form of despair is not being who you are.” ~Søren Kierkegaard I didn’t lose her all at once. I lost myself first—slowly, quietly, in the way that only happens when someone you trust makes you doubt everything you think and feel. She was magnetic when I met her. Warm, intense, the kind…