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  • The Wholeness I Found When I Lost Someone I Love

    The Wholeness I Found When I Lost Someone I Love

    “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~Rumi The room didn’t change when she left. The chair was where it had always been, angled toward the window the way she liked it. What changed was that I could finally see the shape of the thing I’d been leaning on, now that it…

  • What My Broken Face ID Taught Me About Being More Present

    What My Broken Face ID Taught Me About Being More Present

    “Every moment, every challenge, every inner reaction is here to show you exactly what you need to let go of in order to be free.” ~Michael A. Singer The other day, while standing in the kitchen, I grabbed my phone to send a text, but it didn’t recognize my face. Suddenly, every time I wanted…

  • What Happened When I Finally Stopped Saying “I’m Fine”

    What Happened When I Finally Stopped Saying “I’m Fine”

    “The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~Rumi The first winter, I learned to lie cheerfully. “How are you settling in?” someone would ask, and I would smile and say, “Really well, thank you.” That was the most fluent English I spoke all day. I had left a warm, loud, crowded life…

  • Why Self-Care Matters Most When You Have No Time

    Why Self-Care Matters Most When You Have No Time

    “Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean me first; it means me too.” ~L.R. Knost We live in a society that celebrates pushing through; burnout is often worn as a badge of honor, and many job descriptions state bluntly, “Must be able to perform well under pressure and thrive in a fast-paced environment.” I’m very well aware…

  • Same Café, New Me: How I Found Freedom Without Changing My Life

    Same Café, New Me: How I Found Freedom Without Changing My Life

    “Trauma creates change you don’t choose. Healing is about creating change you do choose.” ~Michelle Rosenthal” Today I am sitting in my favorite café in Venice Mall. I got my favorite seat, the one near the water. I have spent countless hours here. I have cried here. Journaled here. Drawn here. Consoled myself here. There…

  • When Your Imagination Turns Every Problem into a Crisis

    When Your Imagination Turns Every Problem into a Crisis

    “You can’t depend on your eyes when your imagination is out of focus.” ~Mark Twain It started with a clogged kitchen drain. Or maybe the drain was where everything else I’d been carrying finally surfaced. Regardless, the water wasn’t moving. It was so bad that some of it backed up in the bathroom sink. Baking…

  • The Pressure to Excel: When Success Feels Like Survival

    The Pressure to Excel: When Success Feels Like Survival

    “To tie your worth to achievements is a recipe for suffering.” ~Brad Bizjack Children don’t just learn mathematics, science, and languages in school. They also learn what success feels like, what failure means, who they believe they are, and sometimes, whether they think they belong. When I was in primary school, my school introduced academic…

  • How “Missing the Boat” Led Me Somewhere Better

    How “Missing the Boat” Led Me Somewhere Better

    A few months ago, I found myself wondering whether I had made a mistake. It is not a question I expected to be asking in my seventies. Like many people my age, I sometimes think about retirement, savings, and financial security. I look around and see friends who spent decades building stable careers and preparing…

  • The Power of Waiting When You Don’t Know What to Do

    The Power of Waiting When You Don’t Know What to Do

    “Waiting is not mere empty hoping. It has the inner certainty of reaching the goal.” ~I Ching  Waiting has a bad rap in modern Western society. It’s not surprising that I had to look to an ancient Chinese text (the I Ching) in order to find a suitable quote to begin this article. We don’t…

  • Once You See the Relationship Pattern, You Can’t Unsee It

    Once You See the Relationship Pattern, You Can’t Unsee It

    “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” ~Maya Angelou The weekend started like any other family visit. Our family was in town, and it began with real excitement. Kids running everywhere, chocolate chip muffins in the oven, homemade ice cream for our guests, the ordinary, happy chaos of everyone existing…